[Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy: 341: Defeating Your Inner and Outer Bullies](https://feelinggood.libsyn.com/341-defeating-your-inner-and-outer-bullies) tl;dr: The podcast discusses strategies for combating the inner bully or negative self-talk, including self-defense, acceptance paradox, and counterattack, and emphasizes the importance of understanding a patient's entire life and values in treating depression. The podcast delves into the inner bully or negative self-talk, which is a common symptom of depression and can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and worthlessness. Freud's idea of depression being anger turned inward is discussed, and negative self-talk can be seen as directing anger towards oneself. To combat these negative thoughts, the podcast suggests using strategies like self-defense (identifying distortions in negative thought), acceptance paradox (finding truth in negative thoughts and accepting them with inner peace or humor), and counterattack (responding aggressively to negative thoughts). Combining these strategies is important for effective treatment. The podcast also emphasizes the significance of measuring and considering a patient's entire life and values in therapy, along with using techniques such as examining the evidence, double standard, and externalization of voices to challenge negative thoughts. Lastly, it touches upon self-acceptance and fostering relationships to help combat negative self-talk, previewing the next episode focusing on external bullies. Notes: - The topic of the podcast is the inner bully, or negative self-talk. - Negative thoughts and cognitive distortions can lead to depression, anxiety, shame, guilt, and other negative feelings. - There are three strategies for combating negative thoughts: self-defense, acceptance paradox, and counterattack. - Self-defense involves pointing out the distortions in the negative thought. - Acceptance paradox involves finding some truth in the negative thought and accepting it with inner peace or humor. - Counterattack involves standing up to the negative thought with an aggressive response. - These strategies can be combined for maximum effectiveness. - Freud's idea that depression is anger turned inward is discussed, and it is determined that negative self-talk is a form of directing anger toward oneself. - Arguing alone with negative self-talk is not usually effective, and it's important to use a combination of strategies. - Acceptance paradox involves finding truth in negative thoughts and accepting them with inner peace or humor - Counterattack involves standing up to negative thoughts with an aggressive response - These strategies can be combined for maximum effectiveness in combating negative self-talk - Freud's idea that depression is anger turned inward is discussed - Negative self-talk is a form of directing anger toward oneself - Arguing alone with negative self-talk is not effective and a combination of strategies is important - Acceptance paradox involves finding truth in negative thoughts and accepting them with inner peace or humor - Counterattack involves standing up to negative thoughts with an aggressive response - These strategies can be combined for maximum effectiveness in combating negative self-talk - Freud's idea that depression is anger turned inward is discussed - Negative self-talk is a form of directing anger toward oneself - Arguing alone with negative self-talk is not effective and a combination of strategies is important - The importance of measuring and considering a patient's entire life and values when treating depression is emphasized - Techniques like examine the evidence, double standard, and externalization of voices can be used to challenge negative thoughts related to guilt and worthlessness from past experiences. - Negative self-talk can be a form of directing anger inward - Combining different strategies is important in treating depression - The importance of measuring and considering a patient's entire life and values is emphasized - Techniques like examine the evidence, double standard, and externalization of voices can be used to challenge negative thoughts related to guilt and worthlessness from past experiences - Negative self-talk is a form of directing anger inward - Combining different strategies is important in treating depression - Measuring and considering a patient's entire life and values is emphasized - Techniques like examine the evidence, double standard, and externalization of voices can be used to challenge negative thoughts related to guilt and worthlessness from past experiences - Negative self-talk is a common symptom of depression - Negative self-talk can be seen as directing anger inward - Combining different strategies is important in treating depression - Techniques like cog distortions, examine the evidence, double standard, and externalization of voices can be used to challenge negative thoughts related to guilt and worthlessness from past experiences - Measuring and considering a patient's entire life and values is an important part of therapy - Accepting oneself and recognizing the importance of relationships with others can help combat negative self-talk - Next week's episode will focus on dealing with external bullies