## [r/loseit - Is this how it's going to be for the rest of my life?](https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/159f2dk/is_this_how_its_going_to_be_for_the_rest_of_my/) A Redditor in r/loseit, a weight loss support group, has the realization they will struggle with their weight for the rest of their life: > [My doctor] gave the advice I have heard hundreds of times across my many attempts to reign myself in - "eat more fruits and veggies, always have healthy snacks available, portion things out, etc.". What is always frustrating about this advice is that this is *not* what most non-obese people do. They simply... don't obsess over food. They can buy a box of crackers and not eat a whole sleeve. They can get an unexpectadly huge pile of takeout and put half in the fridge for tomorrow. They can bake a cake for their birthday and not have to hold themselves back from eating half of it in one sitting. Most have never even thought about counting calories. They don't need to trick their subconscious into vacuuming up veggies rather than chips. As someone who has always had a tumultuous relationship with food and weight, I sympathize. I’m currently at a healthy weight, but every day is a struggle against the compulsion to over eat and regain it all. That said, I don’t think I’m in some unlucky minority. Over 70% of Americans are overweight or obese. It seems that, left to our own devices, most people will end up at an unhealthy weight. I can only hope that drugs like ozempic might one day offer an escape from the struggle. I admit I am a bit bitter that GLP-1 agonists are not offered to folks already in their maintenance phase. Had I initially lost the weight with these drugs, I could use them indefinitely, but since I lost the weight without them, they are no longer an option. Some days I feel like it’s only a matter of time before I fall off the wagon. ## [How too much daydreaming affected me - Sungho Yahng](https://sunghoyahng.substack.com/p/how-too-much-daydreaming-affected) When is day dreaming so excessive that it becomes a problem? Yahng writes about his struggle with Maladaptive Daydreaming: > This immersive daydreaming often pulls me out of reality's context. I've bumped into walls a lot when turning corners in hallways because my mind was somewhere else. Moreover, my capacity for automatic or subconscious remembering, a feature almost built-in for most people, seems to be impaired. For instance, remembering routes or even simple details like the layout of a frequently visited place demands active processing from me, unlike the autopilot mode many rely on. Keeping up with lectures or comprehending simple instructions can be an uphill battle, but manageable if I can process info at my own pace. This reminds me of tulpas, another case where our inner lives become overly rich. Tulpas are imaginary friends that adults intentionally foster. They grow so vivid that the end result is something not unlike multiple personalities (or disassociative identity disorder). There’s an interesting Reply All episode about it if you want to hear more: [#74 Making Friends | Reply All](https://gimletmedia.com/shows/reply-all/49hr6k)